Self-esteem refers to your own evaluation of your worth - your value and perception of you. This includes how you view yourself in regards to your qualities, abilities and significance in relation to others. It is hugely important in your overall well-being, feeding into almost everything you do, specifically how you think, feel, and therefore how you behave.
Recognising Low Self-Esteem
A low self-esteem would suggest a negative sense of self where you might lack confidence in your ability and have a low self-worth, which will undoubtedly have an impact on your mental well-being. You may struggle with doubting yourself, or have a narrative in your mind that is negative or critical about you, which could give rise to feelings of inadequacy.
Invariably, a low self-esteem will have a significant impact in all aspects of your life, especially relationships (both romantic and otherwise), so will play out socially, at home and work or school.
Here are some signs that may suggest your self-esteem is not as healthy as it perhaps might be. Have a read and consider where you could make improvements:
Negative / critical self-talk.
Self-doubt.
Comparison to others.
Seeking validation from others.
Fearing failure.
Perfectionism.
Lack of self-care (including prioritising needs of others over your own).
Social withdrawal.
Negative body image.
Difficulty receiving compliments.
Ok, Tell Me What a Healthy Self-Esteem Looks Like
Well, like you would imagine, it is the opposite. A healthy self-esteem is where you have a strong sense of worth, a positive self-image, and feel confident in your abilities. In short, a healthy self-esteem will allow you to handle life's challenges with resilience, pursue your goals, and maintain healthy boundaries.
Here are some questions you might ask yourself, to evaluate this:
Do you recognise and appreciate your strengths?
Do you accept all of you?
Are you aware (and ok) with your personal limitations?
Do you know what you would like to work on in your personal development?
What does the voice in your head say about you?
What's the relationship like with yourself? Is it somebody you love (in a healthy sense of the word - with kindness and compassion, rather than a malignant egotistical one)?
How to Cultivate a Healthy Self-Esteem
This is not created (or maintained) at the flick of a switch, it isn't an overnight thing. It is a process of continued personal growth, consistent self-reflection, and possibly involves seeking support. When you develop your self-awareness, practise self-compassion, challenge any negative thought patterns, and work to build positive relationships with others, all of this will work towards developing and maintaining a healthier self-esteem.